I’m very proud to be marrying Candyce. She’s smart and beautiful, funny and loving. This is the kind of girl I always dreamed of and every day, she surprised me with some new parts of her character. So when it came time to planning a wedding I knew that she that we were to be different.

Quarrelsome people will fuss over details like bridesmaid’s dresses, flower arrangements, and the flavor of the cake. Stupid things. But not me and Candyce. We don’t have drama now, so why would we have drama about the wedding? It always irritated me when people complain about planning their big day. If planning a wedding cause them so much trouble they probably shouldn’t be getting married in the first place.

I already knew what to tell people it would go something like this.

“Weddings aren’t that big a deal…the planning isn’t that much work…don’t let someone else tell you that it’s a lot of work…”

I liked this attitude because I wanted to encourage other people to focus on the most important parts of the wedding by preparing your heart mind and soul for your future spouse someone you would spend the rest of your life with. Plus, Candyce and I are cool about things and we won’t come undone over silly things.

I admit I was confused. I abandoned any hope of having this “it’s not that much work” attitude a week and a half into planning. I went down quick. There are a lot of details that go in to planning a wedding.  And these details matter. If you do not pay attention to these details, your wedding will not be the celebration of joy and family that you wanted to be. In an effort to make things right, Candyce and discuss each detail and come to a conclusion together. It’s a good exercise for a young couple, but it’s also very exhausting. I tried not to complain or moan about this because I don’t want people to think I’m unhappy about getting married or that I’m unhappy about getting married to Candyce. I’m thrilled about that!  I just wish we hurry up and get there.

(Candyce and I both understand that the most important part of the wedding celebration is the wedding Mass. Anything above and beyond this really is insignificant. This gives us a lot of freedom and removes a lot of anxiety that would have plagued us otherwise.)